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Perinatal OCD: intrusive thoughts during pregnancy and after birth
You love your baby. And yet your mind shows you images of them getting hurt: dropping them, drowning them in the bath, harming them by accident or on purpose.
Intrusive thoughts about the baby are very common after birth. For some parents, they become obsessive, and that's perinatal OCD. It can start during pregnancy or after the baby arrives, and it can affect any parent.
What it looks like
- Frightening, unwanted thoughts or images of harm coming to the baby
- Avoiding bathing, changing, or being alone with the baby
- Checking constantly that the baby is breathing
- Excessive cleaning or sterilizing out of fear of germs
- Asking a partner or family again and again for reassurance
What you need to hear
Having these thoughts doesn't make you a danger to your child. Parents with perinatal OCD are distressed by their thoughts precisely because they want to protect their baby.
What helps
Perinatal OCD responds well to treatment. Talk to your doctor, midwife, or nurse. You can say: "I'm having scary thoughts about my baby that I don't want, and I can't make them stop." Health professionals who know OCD will understand.
If you're having thoughts of harming yourself, or you feel you might act on a thought, get help right away: call or text 9-8-8, or 911 in an emergency.
Your next step
If this sounds like your days, the next step is a doctor or a registered mental health professional, not more research.
This article is education, not a diagnosis. Only a doctor or a registered mental health professional who has met you can tell you whether you have OCD.
Reviewed by the nuanse clinical committee · September 2026. This page is education, not a diagnosis.
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